God Has Perfect Timing

quarter life crisis

Last week I sat around with a group of women enjoying a glass of wine and a chat. The women around me were all ages, came from different cities and had various backgrounds. Some had families, some didn’t, but all of them were what I would describe as successful for various reasons. The topic of age came up and whether or not we each liked to celebrate our birthdays and the passing of another year. The general consensus, was definitely not.

I’m one of those people that loves my birthday, I wear each passing year with pride and I don’t typically care what age I am one way or another. Which forced me to ask, why didn’t this group of ladies like growing older? The answer, for every person, was that they weren’t where they thought they’d be by this age and so each year served as a reminder of what they hadn’t achieved. For some it was a career goal or a financial one, for others it was being married or having children. They all had set themselves on some sort of course long ago and each day they hadn’t reached that preconceived destination served as a harsh reminder of the promise they were breaking to themselves.

Ladies, this mentality doesn’t do any of us any good.

I am a firm believer that God has perfect timing. If you aren’t of a similar faith, think of it as everything happens for a reason and exactly when it’s supposed to. 

When I decided to try and get pregnant for the first time I thought I’d snap my fingers and be expecting the next minute. It took eight months to conceive. Eight months of hoping, eight months of trying not to be jealous of the women around me who were pregnant, eight months of being sad when it didn’t happen like I thought it should. Jackson Cage Hollis was born on January 30, 2007 and he is one of the greatest joys in my life. He loves computer games, cooking with me and playing Legos with his daddy. If I’d have gotten pregnant at any point during those eight months of trying, I wouldn’t have had Jackson. God has perfect timing.

I used to dream of being the biggest event planner in Los Angeles. I wanted a big staff and a fancy office and the highest paying clients in town. Year after year I kept thinking, this is the year I’ll need a staff of 20. This is the year I’ll produce the Govener’s Ball, this is the year I’ll bring home a million dollars (I’m a dreamer, you’ll recall) and every year we grew but not as big as I hoped and I’d feel so depressed that I wasn’t as successful as I should be. Then my little blog, which was only ever supposed to be a marketing tool for the events company started to take over and I absolutely loved it. Eventually the site became my business, and it’s so much more fun and gratifying than the events ever were. If I’d had the biggest events company in LA I wouldn’t have had time to write the blog that would become my career. God has perfect timing.

I could do this with you all day. I could point out a hundred different moments in my life where I thought I should have something and was so upset about not getting it only to discover in retrospect that it wasn’t ever meant to be mine to begin with. If you have a goal, that’s fantastic! I am one of the most motivated people ever and my list of life goals is nine miles long. But along with that goal you need to give yourself some grace. Being married by 25, pregnant by 30 and partner of your firm before 40 are arbitrary numbers and none is more important than the life you live and people you love on the way there. Please remember that by not being where you thought you should be, you might end up exactly where you’re supposed to go. ~Rachel

14 Responses to “God Has Perfect Timing”

  1. latasha

    I love your blog and very inspired by this article you wrote regarding god has perfect timing. I am one of those dreaming types to but also feel that I fall short of my goals and achievements. You remembered me that God is never late but, we are just impatience.

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    • Rachel Hollis

      Latasha,
      I love hearing that this post was helpful to you. I too sometimes suffer from impatience, it’s only in hindsight that I’ve understood what all that waiting was for. =) ~Rachel

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  2. Christina @ Every Little Thing She Does

    Thank you for writing this. I have to tell myself this daily so it’s always nice to have the reminder from “the outside” and that I’m not alone 🙂

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  3. Christina

    Thanks so much for this Rachel! I really needed this today. I must admit I’m not much of a believer of a greater divine plan, but this really resonated with me. No matter how much we have or haven’t achieved by a certain time, I think we all get too caught up in numbers and timelines. Sometimes on the journey to our goals, this thing we call life happens in between — and that’s the beauty of it!

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    • Rachel Hollis

      Christina,
      I’m so happy you found this helpful! I really struggled for a long time with whether or not I was “successful” and then someone said to me “What if success isn’t a goal? What if success is the fact that you get to wake up every morning and do something you love?” It was a life changing comment for me because it completely shifted my perception of my own world. =) ~Rachel

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  4. Heather @ joysinmylife

    This is exactly what I try to practice. I push hard for what I want, but then there is a part of me that sits back and sees what will unfold. I know God has other plans for us, and we need to see what was meant to be while we are busy pushing forward.

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  5. Celeste

    I so needed to read this today, I found your blog form footballer, and I’m so glad!
    Thanks

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  6. Karen @ a house full of sunshine

    I so relate to those women who thought they’d be somewhere different by the age they are now. But I loved your perspective on this. Yes… releasing my oh-so-tight grip on those crazy-high expectations I put on myself and trusting again that God has me where he wants me right now. Thank you for this post.

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  7. Dana

    I needed this. Actually, I cannot even put into words how much I needed this. I turned 35, got a divorce, got laid off and had to move out of my home all in the span of 6 months. It has been difficult, to say the least, but I am trying to hold my head up. Stumbling upon your blog was meant to be….everything happens for a reason.

    Thank you for your words!!

    Now–back to the job hunt! 😉

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    • Rachel Hollis

      Dana,
      I’m sorry to hear you’re going through a hard time but I’m positive you’re going to come out of this experience so much stronger and wiser than you went into it. xo

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